Just kidding. Yes, I'm a child of the 80's, and if you have no idea what I'm talking, er, singing about just, uh, carry on.
But getting into a "groove" is definitely a way to keep your sanity, wouldn't ya say? I'll be the first to say that I think getting into a rhythm in life is hard enough on it's own with kids, a job, A LIFE THAT NEVER QUITS, you know.... the basics. But a LEO family? Sheesh.
Someone recently asked me on Twitter if I scheduled my days. I gave a flip "It depends on the day" ~ which was totally the truth but somewhat a cop out. What I eventually came to share was that I have a plan; a general plan, not a minute-by-minute plan or even a hour-by-hour plan of how to structure most of my days. Of course there are certain days we have obligations and must be out the door at a certain time -- those are non-negotiables, obviously. I'm even less structured than I would like to be, but that's because I'm a perfectionist. Does anyone else see the irony in that statement?!?! I'm a perfectionist, so the less I plan the better I am about going with the flow and accepting whatever comes my way. And with a fly-by-the-seat-of-his-pants husband with an equally unpredictable job, it's really helping me manage my expectations about accomplishments in our daily lives.
In truth, I'm not even as scheduled as Monday/laundry day; Tuesday/Bathroom cleaning day, although I'd probably be better off if I was. However, the things I do to keep our rhythm on a daily basis are:
- Have everyone's clothes laid out the night before, even for the baby and me. Since I am always up before my husband, this is an easy way to avoid the certain groaning from him as I open and close drawers looking for that always-lost sock.
- No one eats breakfast if they aren't dressed. While this is not a hard-and-fast rule every single day, on days when we have places to go/people to see/things to do, it sure gets everyone dressed and ready in a hurry. Socks have to be on and shoes are by the door for easy access when it comes down to the last minute rush to get out the door.
- I check our calendar the night before to make sure that everything we need is ready to go. This includes programming my phone with the phone numbers of people with whom I have appointments the next day. That way if I'm running late, or they don't show up, I have a way to contact them and rearrange our appointment.
- Everyone packs their bags the night before. The kids' things are ready to go, I'm ready, and it really cuts down on the morning stress.
- Speaking of the night before? I make sure I have a plan for all the meals the next day. I'm in NO way a menu planner of the caliber of Mrs. Fuzz, but if I know the night before what's happening the next day for meals, I can chop any veggies and prep as much as possible the night before, or add to my to-do list to pick up that one essential ingredient I'm inevitably missing before 5pm rolls around the next day.
- This one is the worst. I'm just warning you now: I do my very very best to get up and dressed before I hear the first tentative "Mama" calling from the kids' room. On many days, it really really.... well, it sucks. But when I have time to get ready in peace and start my day on my terms, it cuts down on the yelling (what? ME? yell?) and frustration I inevitably feel at some point in the morning. The other thing that's nice in our house is that the kids are not allowed to get up and out of bed without permission.
We get up early.
We have a weekend, like the rest of the world. Well, the same days as the rest of the world.
We eat breakfast in the morning.
Afternoons are for naps.
His afternoons are the prime of his day.
You know, all those basic things. It's been a continual, conscious effort to readjust my weekly rhythm to fit with my husbands'. We don't necessarily use Saturday as a free-for-all weekend day -- It might be Monday, Sunday, or Thursday.
What tips, tricks, and downright skulldudgery do you use to keep your family in sync with your significant other? Please share. I'm trying to avoid the bitter side of life so help me out, people!