Thursday, May 26, 2011

Spring Thaw

Life is swirling at an unbelievable rate these days, and I cannot keep up. 

I thought that with this shift rotation everything would be "great."  Husband is working a modified day schedule (starting in the late morning) and I thought it was close enough to the type of schedule that "regular" people work that it would be great for our family.  In a way, it has been great.  But there are other things, like interpersonal stuff, in our marriage that I thought would be helped by this schedule too. 

Is it no surprise they aren't? 

People say that with kids, it's not about (fancy) "quality" time but quantity.  I guess I thought our marriage would benefit from time together at the "right" time of day (i.e. when I am awake and husband is home and not working).  :)  I don't think it's worked out like that.  It's almost been worse, like there is the expectation that it would be better but it's not so therefore it's worse.  So maybe it's no surprise that I haven't posted for over a month.  School and life has been kicking my butt and I've been so discouraged.  (And I've gotten addicted to Words With Friends.  Oops)

So now, of course, I'm posting because I have good news.  Because I cannot stand to be the bearer of bad news, Debbie Downer.  We're on vacation!  Forever!  Just kidding.  It's not forever but it feels like it.  :)  I'm realizing that I do actually like this person I married (just in case I had forgotten.... which I somewhat had, let's be honest) and I don't remember laughing as much as we have been.  Along with lots of other things, that's the thing that will stand out the most about this spring thaw: the laughing. 

I've said it for a while and this vacation is proving it.  We don't have any big plans to go anywhere, and I think that's good.  Everyone needs to chill out and "thaw" once in a while and for those in law enforcement it's even more important.  I'm thankful, so very thankful, for this thaw and praying for some great progress in so many areas of our marriage and family. 

How about you?  How do you thaw out from life on a regular basis?


The Rhoton Family said...

I TOTALLY understand what you are saying in this post. Being married to an LEO is so hard and it is hard on a marriage... no lies. In fact, I think I'm ready for a thaw too! Hugs!

Meadowlark said...

So glad you're getting an opportunity to recharge and reconnect.

There are plenty of times we don't actually like our spouse. It's those times we rise above it and try to remember why so we can be there as a team when our kids walk down the aisle or our new grandbaby is born. It's THEN that you'll really be glad you made the extra (sometimes HERCULEAN) effort.

And THIS I know from experience. :)


KD said...

ML ~ I know you speak from experience and I value your comments. :) thank you.

MONICA-LnP said...

so glad you are getting your thaw.know that you are not alone-we all go through stuff in our marriages,stay strong sister!laughter,whenever I hear my hubby laugh i know it has got to be something super funny because he rarely laughs!

The Dispatcher and Her Officer said...

Totally know what you are talking about!! Seems like we never get time together anymore. This world needs to be put on hold!!


MJ said...

I get it! When DH swapped back to day shift, I thought everything that was wrong in our marriage would be right again. Not so much. Some things got better, some got worse. And now we are back to nights... *sigh* You just do the best with what you have I suppose. Enjoy your vacay!