Wednesday, February 23, 2011

In Case Of...

Did anyone watch The Bachelor this week?  If you haven't, SPOILER ALERT.  It's been a few days so I don't think I'll spoil anything for those who actually care by telling you that Brad (the bachelor) went to visit his four remaining ladies at their hometowns.  One of the Chantals is from Chico, California, and she helps run the family funeral home.  Her hometown date with Brad started off in the funeral home.  Talk about a romance killer.

At one point, Brad admitted that he is really uncomfortable with death, and never likes to say goodbye to anyone... well, can I hammer it home any more, dear readers?  Death is certain.  Life is UNcertain!  sheesh.  No big surprise that after Chantal had him lay on one of the embalming tables and showed him all her embalming tools, she did not get a rose at the rose ceremony.  No big surprise, none at all... Serious romance killer.

But when you're a law family, death is a little more... acceptable? Accepted? Talked about?  I don't know, maybe it's not, but it should be.  At one time I had a list of all the things that should be in my husband's End Of Watch (EOW) folder.  Who to call, what he wants, what to do, important papers, all that jazz.  Really, if you are breathing (which you are, if you are reading this) you should have a folder like this, LEO or not.

So in that vein, I thought I'd share with you a recent post on Unclutterer: In Case of Death... There are some very basic suggestions as to what you should have all in a centralized location (in your "love drawer" or "legacy drawer" as referenced to Dave Ramsey).  There are also a lot of good tips in the comments section, so read that too. 

Have you done this yet?  Do you think you will (no matter if you "should")? Some people just "can't" or "won't" do it.  What LEO specific items would you suggest adding to that folder?


MrsRobbieD said...

For as long as Ive known my husband he will not tell me "goodbye" or "bye" he says only I love you at the end of phone calls or walking out the door to me. He will say bye to his mother, father & sister though.

I asked him once forever ago why he says only "later" or "cya" to certain people. He says because Bye seems so ending and definate, like he isnt going to see them again.

So his last words to me are always I love You, in case that happens to be the last time we speak/see each other.

The Lioness said...

We do something similar: when he leaves for his shift, I tell him to "Be Careful and I love you. See you in the morning" and he says, "I'll try, love you, too. See you in the morning." If, for some reason, I'm not there when he leaves, I always make a call before lineup.

When my husband was in the academy, they had the recruits write up their funeral plans as an assignment. They had to plan it from beginning to end - a morbid assignment to be sure, but (God forbid) if I ever have to plan it, this will help.