I remember those first few days of my new, sparkly diamond engagement ring shimmering on my finger. It was an outward symbol of the inner feelings I had; I loved someone, and someone loved me, and I had great hope and excitement about our future. In reality, I didn't need that ring to accompany that burning question (the one that came right after the comment about the "nerdy girl" he met so many years ago) but it was a special symbol that I still treasure.
Then, there was the question of a wedding band. Did I really need one? I had a sparkly thing on my finger already. Why did I need TWO rings instead of one? [For the record, I did end up with one ~ a plain band studded with my beloved's birthstone. Love!!]
It may be just a "girl thang" but I definitely feel different when I have that ring on. Even if it's just the plain band, I love glimpsing that ring on my finger and thinking about all the conversations that got us there; the huge fight we got into (and he still gave me my wedding band); the day he proposed and what a shock it was... all of these things are wrapped up in this little piece of jewelry.
So when I don't wear it, I feel "less" married. I don't know how you can feel "less" in that way but I sure do. Now, back in the day I bought my husband a wedding band, which he wore for a while. But he stopped wearing it somewhere along the road. I even bought him a "cheap" replacement because he said he wanted something different/different size/other wife (ha ha just kidding). But he still doesn't wear it. I guess there are lots of reasons; it's more comfy without it, it doesn't get banged up, and it leaves some mystery as to whether my man has a wife and kids at home. Good for the thugs trying to "come after us" in retaliation, bad for the 20-year-old badge bunnies that always seem to be creeping around.
So, I'm curious.... you first responder types out there.... do you wear a ring on shift? Does your S.O. wear one on shift? Why or why not?
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In the interest of full disclosure, I was not wearing any jewelry at the time of this post!
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