I think it takes a special kind of person to be a police officer. In fact, there are lots of jobs that take a special kind of person. However, I think being a cop is such a unique job that it has a higher percentage of people who are ~ well, very similar. It makes me think that "it takes all types" doesn't exactly apply when you're discussing the personality of a cop.
Of course I'm writing about this because of a recent conversation I had. I ran into an acquaintance of ours who recently lost his job. He had talked to DH in the past about becoming a cop, and when I saw him again recently he started up with asking about the job again. I've known this person for years. Years and years and years. He would NOT make a good cop. But how do I flat out say that? I guess I could say that but it is for reasons that aren't all that flattering. Anyway I think DH told him he wouldn't be a good cop when they talked about it too. Let's just say he has temper and confrontation issues. So finally I said "Well, you know DH says that his very best weapon is not on his duty belt, it's his verbal judo. He gets into so few fights and 'befriends' so many of his suspects because he can make friends with the scumbags and act cool then slap the cuffs on them all quick-like. So if you think you can really use your words to finesse all kinds of situations that is probably a point in your favor." In my mind I'm thinking... well, I'm thinking "please read between the lines."
After we had been chatting a while, his wife comes out of left field with some comment about how she doesn't think he would make a good cop because his personality is more like mine and not like my husbands. Excuse me?? I don't think she knows what an insult that was to me. Obviously she must like her husband (she married him) but .... yuck. She was saying how we both have confrontational personalities and it's not a good idea to have that as a cop. I was so flabbergasted. When I mentioned it to my DH he chuckled and said "Maybe she meant he is so girlie and wasn't insulting you." That's a possibility, because he sure is girlie.
After this comment I recalled a recent conversation where a friend of mine said I am not at all what I seem. She clarified by saying that when she first met me she thought I was tough and sarcastic... but now having known me for a few years (and I would say now she really does know me pretty well), she realizes that I am actually super sensitive and it was a shock to her to realize this. Now that I'm thinking about it, I have another example. But I'll leave it at that. So... what is it that people think I'm one way but really... I'm not? I never, ever try to be anything but "real." I don't try to be someone that I'm not, but I'm certainly private. So you see one side of me mostly until you really, truly get to know me. Maybe that's what's going on here.
But it still makes me think. Who am I?
Ok, now back to that acquaintance who thinks being a cop would be easy-peasy. We kept talking and he started asking me about academy. Now, I can only speak for our (my husband's) experience, not every academy in general. But I'm coming from a place of being married to a man who went to one of the academies in our state which has a reputation for being one of the toughest, if not the toughest, places to graduate from. The class before my huband's had a 20% graduation rate or something ridiculously small like that. They were flabbergasted that my husband's class had such a high graduation rate of around 50%. I was trying to explain it to this guy... the idea of having limited chances to remediate on exams, always living in fear of being dropped, watching your classmates fail out... I did tell him he would do a great job on the physical fitness part. :) He basically poo-pooed all my comments saying that it is only emotionally difficult because he has a degree from [insert name of University here] and he's not stupid so he's sure it would be so easy. I just about wanted to puke my brains out when I was listening to this arrogant talk.
The best was when I suggested being a dispatcher. "They hardly make any money!"
Then I did suggest Starbucks. You know, they offer health insurance and you don't even have to work a full 40 hours. "That is so insulting I would never, ever work there." My response? "Well, you better put your house up for sale then if you aren't going to do whatever it takes to make some money for your family."
Never a dull moment, people. Never.
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